What I’m sharing with you today feels pretty scary, but I’m doing it anyway. (Read on, and you’ll find out why.)
With all the growth that spring offers, over the past month or so I’ve felt an unshakable urge to make significant changes in my life.
So, for April’s full moon, I decided it was time to commit. But I knew that creating change for myself wouldn’t come from trying to figure it out in my head. I needed to connect with a larger force.
I decided to do a fire ceremony I had learned while working with a shaman many years ago.
I began by reflecting on what needed releasing to move forward.
After some reflection, the answer became clear. I was ready to get rid of any and all traces of approaching my life from Struggle, Scarcity, and feeling Inept. (Ok, that’s hard for me to admit, but I really want to share that with you!)
The words galvanized me.
I created a small bundle made from twigs, leaves, words, and twine that represented Struggle, Scarcity, and Ineptitude—the three things I was ready to release for good. To burn away these limits and clear space for change, I would offer this bundle to the fire.
When darkness fell I built the fire, slowly, thoughtfully meditating on what I was about to do. Because throwing things into the fire is serious business.
As the fire began to blaze, I called the four directions, the heavens and the earth, and my ancestors to be there with me. I danced around the fire, letting Struggle, Scarcity, and Ineptitude build within my being.
It was intense and there were tears—I kid you not. And when I couldn’t bear to hold onto them one second longer, I cast my bundle into the fire.
Whoosh—in a flash it was consumed by flames!
Like magic, I instantly felt Ease, Abundance, and Capability flow into every part of me.
I danced around the fire again—this time with joy! Everything looked incredibly appealing through a lens of Ease, Abundance, and Capability.
If you’re still with me, you might be wondering how I know this change was real.
Life offers tests.
Recently, I was invited to do a gig that I’m really good at, but that doesn’t align with my purpose.
For a few days, I considered saying yes.
Because even though this gig has always left me exhausted, I thought to myself, Just do it… make things easy for them... receive payment with a smile.
After dragging my feet for a few days, it hit me: Saying yes would come from a place of Struggle, Scarcity, and feeling Inept.
And that was the old me.
The new me chooses differently. And my answer became clear.
Saying no felt so uncomfortable. Risky. Scary. Selfish. But I knew it was the right thing to do.
As I sat down to write the “no thank you” email, my chest was tight and heavy. I re-wrote it half a dozen times. Finally I just said it straight out: Thank you for asking, but I’m unavailable. And, I’ve refocused my business and will be unavailable for this gig going forward. I wish you all the best.
Even though I knew it was the right choice, I hovered over the send button for what seemed like forever, agonizing over how this would impact them.
Finally, I pressed Send.
And an amazing thing happened.
The tight and heavy feeling transformed to open and light. By acting from Ease, Abundance, and Capability, I felt free and had a surge of energy.
No Struggle. Just commitment to my path.
I did a little happy dance in my office and leaned into the sensation of expansion, and saying yes to those things that will enable me to have the bigger impact I’m meant for.
Setting new boundaries and taking those first steps into the new version of me was scary. But I survived. And by choosing my path of Ease, Abundance, and Capability, new doors have opened and I’m loving every moment of it.
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