Here in the northland, I can feel in my body that spring is finally on her way. I want to move furniture, paint rooms, start seedlings, and DO things. The time of reflection and turning inward is coming to a close and the sluggishness of winter is losing its hold. It feels so good!
But what I know is that the onset of May and June mean we will soon all be running full-tilt—not really listening to our inner selves—just trying to get everything on the endless to-do list done.
Quite possibly, crossing things off your list does not satisfy you deep down though. Am I right? Then here’s what I want to say, as much to myself as to you: g e t q u i e t . . .
When you are running from this thing to that you’re on auto pilot. You attend to the things you’re supposed to do, but often not what you are called to do.
In order to hear that soft voice of your wise self, you have to slow down and create some quiet space, and then ask yourself some questions.
What is my heart yearning for?
What are my true desires?
What dreams have I been pushing to the back burner for far too long?
How do I want to contribute to the world?
I encourage you to really listen to the answers.
Not your ego telling you that those dreams might be silly or impractical.
Not the fear of what people will think or whether you will disappoint someone.
Not your cautious, fact-based partner or parent who means well.
But listen to that small voice within that has the answers that are true for you.
You might not like what you hear. Or you may love it. You may think that it’s too hard/expensive/unreasonable/selfish/ridiculous. I invite you to listen anyway.
According to a long time hospice care nurse, the biggest regret of people who are dying is:
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself,
not the life others expected of me.
The first time I read that it shook me to my core. I started to ask myself some hard questions.
What am I really here to do?
What do I love about what I’m doing now and what do I want to change?
What dreams would I regret most if I didn’t go for them?
The answers I received felt just right and I was delighted. I decided to shift my focus of the last several years of working with parents and women in transition—which I loved—to something that excited me even more. I had experienced this already with some clients and it encompassed a need I saw in the world from my vantage point as a woman, heart-centered change-maker, and mama to three daughters.
I made the decision to shift my work to focus entirely on women and the empowerment I heard them asking for in coaching. Yes! Perfect—a Women's Empowerment Coach! I was totally engaged and excited!
And that’s when my gremlins showed up—and they were LOUD.
Who do you think you are?
Why don’t you just stick to one thing?
What will people think?
What if it doesn’t work?
Time to slow down again. These gremlins or worries, are just thoughts, even though they feel like the voice of reason. It's the ego saying, “Wow! Don't do that! That might not be safe! Danger awaits you in the unknown!!”. But they're not factual, or real; they're just thoughts. And not very helpful ones either.
And so I chose to breathe, let them move through me, thank them, and let them know that I’ve got this. It’s what I encourage you to do when your gremlins rear their mighty heads and try to tear down your dreams and keep you from moving forward.
So what is this new adventure I'm on? A refocusing of sorts, and also a reclamation of work I began decades ago. I’m accepting an opportunity to step more fully into my authentic self and to bring the gifts I’ve been endowed with, the growing body of knowledge within me, and the desire to raise the level of engagement, joy, and life experience for as many hungry, ready, not-willing-to-settle women and girls as I can through private coaching, small groups, retreats in nature, and workshops in beautiful spaces.
If this aligns with your interests, I invite you to stay tuned for more. I will be reaching out with gems of healing, growth, and wisdom more regularly. If not, you are welcome to use the unsubscribe link below. No hard feelings if you unsubscribe, I promise. I simply want to connect with the people who want to connect with me.
I wish for you all good things, including the space to know when those critical voices in your head are just gremlins.
Here’s to a slow and mindful spring re-awakening!
With warmth and love,
Also, for those of you in the Northfield area, I have just 4 spaces left in my mini-retreat on Sunday, April 29, 1-3pm. This is a fundraiser for Prairie Creek Community School and it's focused on women's renewal and nourishment. "Reclaim Your Adventurous, Authentic Self" will be held at the beautiful Prema Studio in downtown Northfield. Get in touch with me asap to find out if this would be a good fit for you. 763.412.7319 or firstname.lastname@example.org